Relationships/Love: platonic, romantic and familiar. And in my personal opinion, most importantly the relationship, the love you have for/with yourself.
Career: are you ambitious, a fighter, a deliverer of action after your word, are you reliable, are you responsible?
Faith: your religious following, your beliefs, do they motivate you or possibly hold you back?
Acceptance, I’d consider this a form of trust, trusting others, accepting though there’s alway the possibility of a lie. Trusting yourself and your ability to overcome obstacles, whether great or small. Accepting there are things about yourself you simply cannot change, both mentally and physically.
“Which of these is most important for you on your journey through life? What were they when you were younger, what are they now that you’re older and hopefully wiser?”
I asked my close friends the very same- well, a more airy form of the questions… We’ll begin with Faith, an answer I honestly expected to see more. But saw very little. Perhaps if all my friends and I weren’t millennial’s the amount of that retort may have been different. As new generations come, science and technology advance so it maybe possible that many of us have begun to think we’re too intelligent for a God(s). Or too occupied with our own very tangible, very difficult, very mercurial day-to-day life to consider kneeling and speaking to someone we were told as children lives in the sky. Only to discover later, may or may not be there.
Career, don’t we all want to be successful, gain the respect from our peers, mentor others or even make our parents proud. For many of us success translates to earning a million bucks, being the executive director of a company, head of the board- but how many are brave enough to sacrifice their youth for a future as such. How many people have been brave enough to do so, but there was unfortunate overslaugh because someone less experienced, but well connected was offered the position. How do you reframe from giving up?
Accepting, just three short syllables, but this word is so heavy, because it’s so very hard to do. Accepting others, and their flaws as being apart of who they are, trusting them. Then there is trusting and accepting yourself, learning to live with your very own flaws. How does anyone do that?
And last, but far from least: Love/Relationship. Most of us, if not all want to be in it- love. Have someone special, someone you can say, “I love you” too, someone mature, your kind of beautiful and ready to say it in return. But there are multiple types of love. And love changes based on the status/label of the relationship, correct? The love you have for a friend or friends is very different than the love you have for your romantic partner. The love you have for your partner, is very much the opposite of love you share with your family. Then there’s self love.
I suppose you could say this is acceptance reworded. So I’ll rebuttal, love only comes after acceptance. Agree? Accepting your flaws, the good in you without being bombastic and the bad in you, with the absence of self-loathing. I understand, difficult concepts, but not impossible to manage. In regards to flaws and your accepting them: If you don’t believe in you, love you, why and how could I, or anyone else?
I challenge you to help me answer these questions. Have I missed something? Tell me, in life what is most important to you?